A friend of mine told me that there is a difference between friends who share the same background and culture and those who do not. He reminded me that it is always going to be easier dealing with and explaining to people how you feel about those who share the same experiences. I needed that reality check and it truly made me feel better.
People were asking me why I was so pissed off when they ask me about the dating life in China – well see for yourself. I know that there are a lot of men in China and that because there are a billion people floating around that not everyone is to be thrown back to the waterways. However, you have to realize that when this is the “normal and acceptable” behavior and attitude of men in China, you wonder why I have already planned my IVF date.
See the article below…
A Chinese Husband’s ‘ad’ for his wife to get plastic surgery sparks debate – http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-china-35106611.
What is interesting about this article is the following:
1) This is trending on weibo and if you look at the comments, some are actually supportive about this husband’s request. I was really surprised about the women who seemed to think that their job is to please their significant others. Score one for the make up business in China and in 5-10 years the booming psych business here because eventually you are going to realize that you need self esteem and a shrink to obtain one.
On the other hand, this explains the high rate of women who cheat on their spouses with very ugly Westerners in Shanghai – we saw this 3 of a white guy with an 8 Chinese girl who said that she was married to a wealthy Chinese businessmen who was never in town to take care of her. I started to laugh my butt off after she kissed him and then they walked out hand in hand. You know that there are significant sexual diseases going on in that corner.
2) I cannot tell if this is advertisement is suppose to be a joke or real but many people are taking it seriously. If this ad is real, I recommend the woman get a quick divorce because she deserves better. You know that this husband most likely does not have the most fit body. Do not take my word for this but look at the average married Chinese guy with his wife – most of the time the woman looks fine and the guy has a gut.
3) CHINA’S GREAT FIREWALL BANNED THE ARTICLE :d.
On the other hand, the great firewall of China has not banned articles questioning and negatively featuring articles about attitudes towards women in other countries or areas… See France passes bill banning excessively thin models – http://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-35130792.
While I was having a bad week in China because I was pissed off that people were lying to my face and trying to pass it off as I did not understand their culture, I have decided to just forget about learning about their “relationship” culture because I do not want to learn how to lie and manipulate people because I need to unlearn it once I go home.
I figure if the Chinese government is going to go as far as barring an article about a guy behaving badly, I certainly should not be upset or unrealistic in thinking some members of society would think lying their ass off about petty stupid matters is acceptable – especially to someone they think is an outsider or a foreigner.
Current Mood – Pretty Happy now that the nose seems to be working and I can breath. Might need to go back for some more of that Traditional Chinese Medicine. Cheeky if nothing else 😀
